Why Men Cheat

A counselor surveyed 200 cheating and non cheating men. Here are the results from his surveys..

• 48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated.

So much for the myth that for men, cheating is all about sex: Only 8 percent of men said that sexual dissatisfaction was the main factor in their infidelity. "Our culture tells us that all men need to be happy is sex," Neuman says. "But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they're appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right."

• 66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair.

It isn't just uncaring jerks who cheat. In fact, 68 percent of cheaters never dreamed they'd be unfaithful, and almost all of them wished they hadn't done it, Neuman says. Clearly, guilt isn't enough to stop a man from cheating. "Men are good at compartmentalizing feelings," Neuman explains. "They can hold on to their emotions and deal with them later." So even if your man swears he would never cheat, don't assume it can't happen. It's important for both of you to take steps toward creating the relationship you want.
-I personally don't agree with men feeling guilty "during" the affair. It didn't stop you from crawling underneath the sheets with her yet you felt  guilty? Yeah okay..

• 77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated.

Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes it as a possibility.   Build your social circle around happy couples that share your values — it'll create an environment that supports relationships.

So I'm gonna be honest, I don't know if I personally agree with these results. All I'm saying is, if you have to cheat on your wife or girlfriend, I don't care what the excuse is, get out! To the guy in the first bullet: your excuse for cheating on her was mainly because of physical reasons. It hurt her, so no shit she's not gonna be interested for a while. So your solution was cheating?.. You're lucky I'm not your girlfriend.

But don't worry guys, next week I'll list why us girls cheat, so I'm not completely throwing you under the bus:).

Strange, but True Facts about Men and Women

For this weeks blog, I thought I would take a break from all the seriousness of relationships, and just talk about some things that I thought would be interesting to know. Here are some "Strange but True" facts about men and women. Most of these I think I could say I agree with for the most part. How about you?

• couples usually wait 6 to 8 weeks before entering an exclusive relationship.
• 40% of women would consider dumping her boyfriend if her friends didn't like him.
• it take a woman 1 hour to decide if she wants to date a man again, where man decides in 15 minutes.
• on average, women usually say around 7,000 words per day, and men say about 2,000 words.
• what's known as the French kiss in the English world, is known as the English kiss in France.
• studies indicate that a man who kisses his wife before work, usually has a higher income.
• the average man sees 5 women a day that he would like to sleep with.
• the most common times for breakups are around 3-5 months.
• one in three teenagers have experienced violence in a dating relationship.
• in online dating, women fear meeting a serial killer, and men fear meeting someone fat.
• research shows that men can tell if they're in love after 4 dates. For women, its 14 dates.
• 29% of Americans have had sex on the first date.

I thought some of these were pretty true. Although, I do think that the percent for Americans having sex on the first date is probably higher than 29%....
Let me know what your opinions are on these facts!

The Basic needs for Him and Her

This week, I am going to take you inside both a mans mind, and a woman's mind. I am going to discuss few of the basic things a man wants in a relationship, and a few things a woman wants in a relationship. But  before I did my research, I tried coming up with the basic things that I thought a man wants, and what a woman wants.
To me, a woman wants to shown how much she is appreciated. I think most men would roll their eyes at this and instantly think we want flowers every week or something. But it doesn't always have to be material things we need for our man to show that he appreciates us. Some simple examples would be, calling her to see how her day is going. Randomly text her and say that you were thinking of her, (even if you weren't we would still fall for it) and tell her you love her. If she had a rough day at school, offer to help with assignments or studying. Again, I'm sure that's the last thing you guys want to do, but I guaranteed that she would just smile at the fact that you offered and say no thanks.
A second thing that I think I girl wants is a best friend. We cant help that we complain, or gossip about something to our boyfriend, because in our mind, we're really confiding in our best friend. Guys, we only do this because we feel comfortable enough to trust you with what's going on in our lives, not to irritate you.
And a third thing is A Man. By this I mean, someone that she knows she can go to if she ever needs something or is in need of help. Someone who will defend her, but still let her know when she's wrong and discuss what they can do to make it right.
So now, for the men. This is what I think guys want in a relationship.
Someone who isn't too clingy, and is independent. I have plenty of guy friends who complain about this all the time. They don't want someone that they feel like they need to constantly text, or hang out with EVERY SINGLE weekend. Or, have to ditch their guy friends because she wants to hang out all of a sudden. (I personally would find this annoying too).
Second, a girl who is comfortable being herself around him. Guys always like goofing around, and doing the first thing that comes to their mind, so what's better than having your girl do it with you?!
And the last thing that I also think a guy wants is a friend. A buddy. He too, in different ways, wants a girl that he can come to, and talk to like he would a friend without all the mushy stuff.
Now that I have done my research, here are the top three things a men and women want in a relationship.
What Men Want-
1. A Woman that is Playful
Every guy likes to play and be active. But sometimes, us girls forget that and try to "talk" things to him. It's not the words that make him like you, its the things you do together to build good memories. Try watching sports together, or being a little extra competitive. You can even do a little teasing with these things and that always gets their attention.
2. A Woman that is Independent
Most girls seem to think that guys like a girl who is "weaker" or not as "smart" so they can feel like they have the higher power. But after my research, apparently that's completely wrong. Guys want someone who inspires them, and is good at what she does. They don't get intimidated at all. They just want the time that they have with you, to be with you. Not your own interests and responsibilities.
3. A Woman who is Emotionally Mature
Eventually, you and your other half will not agree on something or have a misunderstanding. So the question is, how will a girl react to this? A girl who is mature enough to not blame her man for her problems, and instead just explain why she feels the way she does, will help the guy have a better understanding of the situation.
What Women Want-
1. Women want to be Wanted
Not all of us girls may notice this, but its true. We like being that person you talk to about your day, and knowing that we can turn to you if in need.
To help guys in this department, try asking her about her goals, where she sees herself in the future, or questions that maybe you even you wonder about.
2. Woman want a Friend
If a guy really likes a woman, he will do the best that he knows to show it. He takes her out to dinner, invites her to activities, or proposing anything that will get to know her better.
Of course with some exceptions, these can be things that you would do with your friends, so let her know that she has a friend in you, and you have a friend in her.
3. We Want you to be Honest
Guys, if you don't have feelings for a girl anymore, don't drag it out. There is plenty of other fish in the sea, so if you don't see your relationship going anywhere, let her now. Because if you don't, she is only going to be hurt twice as much in the end.
Well, that's it for this week! Hope that this may have helped anyone in their relationships, or given them a better idea of their significant other!

The reason why I chose my topic to be about relationships is because for one, they can be extremely confusing, and other reasons are, I wonder why guys and girls do the things they do. Why do guys need their "guy time?" why do some girls want to be with their boyfriend, and their boyfriend only? Why do people cheat? And how come 50% of marriages end up in a divorce?
I am currently in a relationship, and I find that my biggest problems, personally, are competing with todays society. I can't go rent a movie with him without worrying about if whether or not there's going to be a naked girl, or a stripper or something. In todays world, its all about sex, and I hate it. I realize that I am probably one of the few girls that think of this, but I think that more girls should notice these things too, and consider there self respect. If girls had more self respect for themselves, then guys would have more respect for girls. I use to always think that guys were the cheaters and pigs, but today, the girls are JUST AS bad.
So for this topic, I am going to be talking about all the points I brought up, and maybe it'll help others learn more about things in their relationships.