Last Week!

I would like to start this post just by saying that I am super excited this is one of the last posts we will have to be doing! Do you think that he is gonna have us still do one next week even though it is our last day? He probably will..

Anyways, it has been extremely difficult lately to think of things to talk about for my blog. I feel like I pretty much covered romantic relationships, and the only other relationship I can think to talk about is my own family. And even then I am running out of ideas! So this time, I thought that I would talk about our class, Mr. Brown, and the relationship we have together. Or should I say, "Doctor" Brown.

I really enjoyed having all of you guys in my English class. I think over all, we all got along pretty well, and it was easy for us to talk to one another. I am bummed that we probably wont see each other after Christmas Break..

And I don't know how you guys feel, but I thought that Mr. Brown was the shit! He always had fun with us in class, and made the subject as fun as he could. Like the stalking assignment.. who does that?! I also liked how he started the class of with a question. We heard some pretty funny answers and stories from one another.

As much as I don't like writing essays, I actually enjoyed work shop believe it or not. Even though there was a few times I didn't have my essay completed, and I am pretty sure that I didn't even have an essay at all. Hah, sorry for those of you who were in my group! But work shop gave me a chance to know you guys better, and I am happy to have had the chance to make new friends!

I hope you all have a great Christmas!! Kick ass on your exams!

My Better Halves

I have two younger siblings. Their names are Maria and Michael. Maria is a junior in high school, and Michael is a sophomore. These two mean the world to me, and I honestly have no idea where I would be in life without them. I can honestly say that I have never met other siblings that are as close as we are.

My sister Maria and I work together. I am a cashier, and she is a bagger. You are not suppose to have a conversation with the baggers or other cashiers if you are with a customer, but Maria and I are ALWAYS talking. And so far, we haven't had any complaints from the customers. We just always hear "are you girls always this nice to each other?" And we would just look at each other, smile, and say yeah. Maria has always been my best friend, and I have always been hers. Of course we have our moments, but we are always able to look pass them and move on.

My brother and I are about four years apart, so there is kind of a big age difference between us. But that has never stopped us from hanging out together! Mike is always one of the most fun people to be around and he never fails to make you laugh so hard that your stomach hurts. He is about 6'1, so he is pretty big for a 15 year old, and whenever a guy tries hitting on me, he likes to start something like he's some a big tough guy. But deep down, Mike is really just a big teddy bear. And if you know him well enough, he has no problem admitting it.

Us three have been through a lot together these past few years, and we have helped each other become better, and stronger people. A brother or sister is one of the best things you can have in your life, because they are a part of you. So if you have a sibling, no matter how old or young there, let them know how much they mean to you, and think about what your life would be like if you didn't have them to count on. I know I would have absolutely nothing.

Five Ways to Know You Are Dating a Real Man

I am honestly running out of things to talk about when it comes to relationships. But I ended up coming across this, and thought, and ehhh why not.. so ladies, here is how you know you are dating a real man!

• A real man values more than just your looks.

Is every compliment from him about a different body part? It doesn't matter how creative he can be, if a guy's sole focus is on how you look, or 'talking dirty,' see it as a red flag. A real man will value your personality, your kindness, your intelligence, and who you are as a person, in general. The things he makes you feel good about will be things that you control, not just results of getting lucky in the gene pool.

• A real man will never be intimidated by your motivation.

A man who has goals for himself, will want to be with a woman who has goals for her own life, too. He will never feel intimidated or threatened by a woman who goes after what she wants. He will want to be part of a power couple, rather than a dictatorship. Be mindful of anyone who tries to keep you from pursuing your dreams.

• A real man will have more interests than just you.

I don't mean this in a negative way. You should, of course, be a priority in his life -- but he needs to have a life as well. Interests, friends, hobbies, aspirations. If a man works his entire life around you, it's another red flag -- relationships should be a great part of your life, but not encompass your whole life.

•  A real man will give you answers.

No matter how awkward or uncomfortable a situation is, a real man will approach it, and you, with respect. I have always felt that a mark of a man is how he handles conflict, criticism, and less-than-ideal situations. A man will not dance around answers or make excuses. If there is something you two need to talk about, he will talk about it.

• A real man will trust you.

As long as you haven't betrayed his trust, a man will NOT be paranoid, or snoop around invading your privacy to make sure you're not doing anything bad. He will have confidence in your relationship. A boy will project his own insecurities onto you, and like termites in a house, will eat away at the foundation of what you've built.

 Information was received from huffingtonpost.com

And of course, next week I will be posting how you know you are dating a real lady.

Pros and Cons of Open Relationships

I never really understood the point of having an "open relationship". I mean, why not stay single then? I thought that it would be interesting to find out what the advantages and disadvantages are, so enjoy!


PROS-

• You Get to Be With Other People-

In an open relationship you get to experience every opportunity that comes your way, you get to act on your desires and you never go home feeling that pang of regret. It gives you a far greater amount of freedom. If you have ever been in a relationship and have looked at someone else who has caught your eye, then you will know that it can sometimes be frustrating not to be able to act on it. Even worse is when you’re out on your own and someone you are incredibly attracted to starts to chat you up and actually starts making moves on you… before you have to say ‘sorry I’m in a relationship’.

• More Varied Sex-

One of the important reasons is the sex. Plain and simple. It means you get more varied and exciting sex and with more people.

• You Don’t Get Bored-

Because you are getting a more varied sex life and seeing more people, this means that when you’re with your partner you feel more excitement and more freshness. This can help to prevent things from settling into that ‘familiar’ territory and keep things exciting a lot longer.

CONS-

• There Is Guilt-

Of course the idea is that there is no guilt, because technically you can do what you like. However for the vast majority of us it’s very difficult not to feel guilty when we are sleeping with someone who is not our partner – or when we are telling our partner how much they mean to us and we remember what we were doing last night.

• There’s Jealousy

You may or may not feel guilty and everyone is different in this regard. However there is a big chance that you are going to feel jealous when you see your partner with another person, or when you hear them talking about them. You’ll wonder whether maybe they had a better time with them, you’ll worry that they might leave you, and you’ll hate the idea of sharing. This is human nature whether or not you have any interest in a long term relationship.

• Diseases and Pregnancies

 And then of course there is the slight problem of STI’s and pregnancy scares. While it is possible to be safe in an open relationship and to take safe sex seriously, no form of contraceptive is 100% effective and there is always the chance that something could go wrong. Of course this is dramatically increased if you have multiple sexual partners meaning that you could easily end up in trouble. And of course the idea of an accidental pregnancy is much worse when it isn’t with the partner that you want to spend the rest of your life with anyway.

Information by: Colleen Crawford

I still say you should be single if you are doing things like this...

Worst Weekend Ever!

As you can see, I am posting this blog pretty late because my computer decided to take a crap on me last night. But my brilliant uncle got it working again! Or maybe it is more like, damn, he got it working again.. haha. But anyways, the reason why I am calling this post the worst weekend ever, is because it honestly was. For those of you who read my post a couple ago, it was about my parents getting a divorce. And this weekend was the finalization of that. Even though I knew it was coming up, deep down I still had that hope that they were not going to go through with it. But they did. I stay at my moms on the weekends, so when she came home that night, she was just a mess! And on top of that, I was going through some problems in my relationship, and my boyfriend and I ended up breaking up. This Christmas break would have been two years for us.. so it sucks really bad. But hey, gotta take it one day at a time. We have still talked once day sense the break up, because we both really want to be friends. Especially because of the reason why we broke up. With everything going on in my family, I told him that I have just been extremely stressed with trying to make time for my family, considering it is scattered all over now, and I need some time to find myself again. My parents divorce has really made me think different about relationships, and I know that is not good..

But anyways, on top of that, I had to drive my moms car to meet Tyler in order to talk about all of this, and we met at one of the gas stations in town. Our plan was to get some coffee, and we would take off in his truck and go somewhere that we could talk. So I kept my moms car parked at the gas station. Little did I think that it was Friday night, so there was a football game going on and that place is always packed when the game is over. So when I got back somebody had completely destroyed my mom front bumper! And of course they took off. But the thing is, I hadn't even noticed it. It was when it was parked in the garage and my brother came home and said something. I was like, what are you talking about? But soon I realized exactly what he was talking about. My mom was soo mad at me. So long story short, I called the gas station to tell them that there was a hit and run with my moms car, and that they needed to check their cameras. The lady said that there they couldn't
look at the cameras themselves, and that they had to get special permission from their manager in order to make a request for the video to be sent in. But of course, the manager doesn't work on weekends. So we had to wait until Monday morning to hear from them.
Still no call.

Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez are Getting Married?

Okay, so I know there is probably a lot of you that are like, "seriously Jen, Bieber?" But I just had to look into this more! I am a cashier at grocery/hardware store, and when I don't really have anything to do, I tend to look at the newest drama in the famous life. Ugghhhh, to be famous.......
Anyways, when I was looking at all the magazines, I came across the headline of "Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez Engaged", and my reaction to this was, "What!? seriously, what is wrong with you Selena!" I did some more research on it, and I found I few different things. Some say that they seen Justin ring shopping. Other articles say that they have seen her wearing a wedding band, and that they already may be married. Not to mention, apparently, Selena is also pregnant with Justin's baby.

Justin was caught ring shopping on June 24 and now a new report claims that he has in fact popped the question! But has he already broke Selena’s one condition to saying yes by hanging out with Chantel Jeffries and other girls?
A lot can change in a week. On June 24, Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez were living out their Romeo & Juliet fantasy and he was looking for the perfect ring give to her. But on June 30, Chantel Jeffries was the one on Justin’s arm. So what happened to Justin’s proposal? Did he already break his “Til death do you part” bond with Selena? -By Andrew Gruttadaro

“Justin absolutely believes that when the time is right, he’ll stick a ring on Selena’s finger,” a source reveals to HollywoodLife.com EXCLUSIVELY. “And when he does, it will be the best of the best. He’s said he would spend up to a million dollars on an engagement ring for her.”
So would Selena, 22, say yes, despite all the pain and heartache Justin has put her through over the years, and especially recently?
"Selena loves the big gestures so as much as he’s messed up with her, knowing her, she’d say yes to that kind of thing,” our source says. “He knows how to sweep her off her feet when he wants to.” -By Bonnie Faller.

Honestly Selena, just move on, he is just using you.

A Divorce in My Family

My parents had been married for over twenty years, had three children, and are currently going through a divorce. Kind of ironic that I chose Relationships as my topic...

The last year has been nothing but hell for me and my brother and sister. My parents have done nothing but argue the last six months that my dad was still living with us, and now even though he is currently moved out, we are still stuck in the middle of everything that's going on.
In case you are wondering, I am writing about this because when I came home today, I had to hear more about lawyers, and what parent is trying to do or get from the other. So I just thought I would get this off my chest a little.
For all the other kids whose parents are divorced, I honestly have no idea how you do it. Everyone keeps telling me that it gets a lot better over time. And I'm sure it does, but it seems to be taking forever! Some have even told me that it can be nice because you get to have two birthdays and holidays. Well let me tell you right now, your wrong, and  it absolutely sucks. The last Christmas that we had, my dad wasn't there with the rest of my family, and I was completely heartbroken. My sister cried all night, and wouldn't talk to anyone. I can't believe that the rest of my life is going to be like that on Holidays and birthdays.

Before any of this happened, my plan was to always attend school at Delta because it was wasn't that far from home if I needed something, and mainly because we just can't afford a university. But I was always super excited because I have family in Saginaw that I planned on living with, my aunt and uncle, and then I would just be able to go home every weekend. But now sense my parents are splitting, I am currently living in three different places. I live with my dad two days of the week, my aunt two days of the week, and my mom on the weekends. My head explodes every single time I have to plan out my week, and it's a huge pain in the ass to keep up with all the things that I have to pack to go from place to place.

I hope and pray everyday that this bump in my path will soon come to an end. It sucks so bad knowing that I am trying to move on with my life, but my brother and sister are still there.. There are many days that I feel awful because I feel as if I have just left them, and have no time for them because of living in three different places. It has been so difficult making everyone happy.
I just wish that I could go back to when we were a family...

Why Women Cheat

Last week I listed and explained why men cheat. So this week, I am going to do just the opposite.
Why do women cheat?? I personally think that girls cheat because they are missing some kind of emotional piece. But trust me, I am not making an excuse at all for girls. Cheating is wrong. Whether he does it, or she does it. And just so you know, most of the research that I found was mainly toward married women. I was hoping to find information on unmarried couples so most of you could relate, but this is what I got!

Four Reason why Women Cheat:

• Low Self-Esteem

For the women who are married, they become nothing more than a mother, housekeeper and wife who keeps the family running smoothly. Maybe she is feeling frumpy and unattractive. Her self-esteem is in the gutter. She no longer feels sexy, beautiful or desirable. She is married to a man who takes her and the marriage for granted. Picture this....
 A man who compliments her, shows interest in her emotionally, tells her she is beautiful. A man who looks at her and sees something other than a mother, housekeeper and wife. A woman who is having issues with low self-esteem is a sitting duck for a man like this.

• The Emotionally Starved Wife

There was a research done on a couple who had no children, and they both worked extremely hard to have the big house and the nice cars. The lifestyle they thought would make them happy. Only problem is, they are working so hard to accumulate things that they are neglecting their relationship with each other. There is no romance in their marriage and any emotional attachments are to the “things” they’ve acquired over the years. The wife even admitted that she started to feel "lonely through the years." What happens when a woman feels lonely and no emotional attachment to her husband? She goes looking for emotional attachment elsewhere.

• The Angry Wife

There is no better way than to get back at a husband who has cheated than to cheat yourself.
A woman who has been devoted to her husband for years and putting her marriage and family first, found out that her husband was cheating on her with a young lover and planned on revenge from that day. She went to Victoria’s Secret, charged hundreds of dollars in lingerie and then found someone other than her husband to show it all off to. Her husband got the bill!

• The Wife who seeks Excitement

You have heard of men who are serial cheaters.. they cheat for the thrill of it. There are women who are thrill seekers also. Most “thrill seekers” miss the feeling that comes with feeling their spouse can’t keep his hands off her. She wants to be wanted, to feel sexy, as if she turns her husband on every time she walks in the room. When she loses that feeling, she goes looking for it outside the marriage.

• The Sexually Deprived Wife

If she isn’t getting sex at home, don’t be surprised if she goes looking for it outside the marriage. As men age their testosterone levels drop. When this happens they become less interested in sex or develop sexual dysfunction.  and are unable to perform. A wife ends up with a husband who would rather watch football or read a good book at bedtime than have sex with his wife.

I actually really enjoyed doing this research on the women much more than on the men. I found myself more interested in why women cheat, and their feelings behind it. I even laughed out loud when I read the story about the woman catching her husband cheating, and she bought hundreds of dollars in lingerie for someone else to see it, and sent him the bill. LMAO moment!!!!!!!

Why Men Cheat

A counselor surveyed 200 cheating and non cheating men. Here are the results from his surveys..

• 48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated.

So much for the myth that for men, cheating is all about sex: Only 8 percent of men said that sexual dissatisfaction was the main factor in their infidelity. "Our culture tells us that all men need to be happy is sex," Neuman says. "But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they're appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right."

• 66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair.

It isn't just uncaring jerks who cheat. In fact, 68 percent of cheaters never dreamed they'd be unfaithful, and almost all of them wished they hadn't done it, Neuman says. Clearly, guilt isn't enough to stop a man from cheating. "Men are good at compartmentalizing feelings," Neuman explains. "They can hold on to their emotions and deal with them later." So even if your man swears he would never cheat, don't assume it can't happen. It's important for both of you to take steps toward creating the relationship you want.
-I personally don't agree with men feeling guilty "during" the affair. It didn't stop you from crawling underneath the sheets with her yet you felt  guilty? Yeah okay..

• 77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated.

Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes it as a possibility.   Build your social circle around happy couples that share your values — it'll create an environment that supports relationships.

So I'm gonna be honest, I don't know if I personally agree with these results. All I'm saying is, if you have to cheat on your wife or girlfriend, I don't care what the excuse is, get out! To the guy in the first bullet: your excuse for cheating on her was mainly because of physical reasons. It hurt her, so no shit she's not gonna be interested for a while. So your solution was cheating?.. You're lucky I'm not your girlfriend.

But don't worry guys, next week I'll list why us girls cheat, so I'm not completely throwing you under the bus:).

Strange, but True Facts about Men and Women

For this weeks blog, I thought I would take a break from all the seriousness of relationships, and just talk about some things that I thought would be interesting to know. Here are some "Strange but True" facts about men and women. Most of these I think I could say I agree with for the most part. How about you?

• couples usually wait 6 to 8 weeks before entering an exclusive relationship.
• 40% of women would consider dumping her boyfriend if her friends didn't like him.
• it take a woman 1 hour to decide if she wants to date a man again, where man decides in 15 minutes.
• on average, women usually say around 7,000 words per day, and men say about 2,000 words.
• what's known as the French kiss in the English world, is known as the English kiss in France.
• studies indicate that a man who kisses his wife before work, usually has a higher income.
• the average man sees 5 women a day that he would like to sleep with.
• the most common times for breakups are around 3-5 months.
• one in three teenagers have experienced violence in a dating relationship.
• in online dating, women fear meeting a serial killer, and men fear meeting someone fat.
• research shows that men can tell if they're in love after 4 dates. For women, its 14 dates.
• 29% of Americans have had sex on the first date.

I thought some of these were pretty true. Although, I do think that the percent for Americans having sex on the first date is probably higher than 29%....
Let me know what your opinions are on these facts!

The Basic needs for Him and Her

This week, I am going to take you inside both a mans mind, and a woman's mind. I am going to discuss few of the basic things a man wants in a relationship, and a few things a woman wants in a relationship. But  before I did my research, I tried coming up with the basic things that I thought a man wants, and what a woman wants.
To me, a woman wants to shown how much she is appreciated. I think most men would roll their eyes at this and instantly think we want flowers every week or something. But it doesn't always have to be material things we need for our man to show that he appreciates us. Some simple examples would be, calling her to see how her day is going. Randomly text her and say that you were thinking of her, (even if you weren't we would still fall for it) and tell her you love her. If she had a rough day at school, offer to help with assignments or studying. Again, I'm sure that's the last thing you guys want to do, but I guaranteed that she would just smile at the fact that you offered and say no thanks.
A second thing that I think I girl wants is a best friend. We cant help that we complain, or gossip about something to our boyfriend, because in our mind, we're really confiding in our best friend. Guys, we only do this because we feel comfortable enough to trust you with what's going on in our lives, not to irritate you.
And a third thing is A Man. By this I mean, someone that she knows she can go to if she ever needs something or is in need of help. Someone who will defend her, but still let her know when she's wrong and discuss what they can do to make it right.
So now, for the men. This is what I think guys want in a relationship.
Someone who isn't too clingy, and is independent. I have plenty of guy friends who complain about this all the time. They don't want someone that they feel like they need to constantly text, or hang out with EVERY SINGLE weekend. Or, have to ditch their guy friends because she wants to hang out all of a sudden. (I personally would find this annoying too).
Second, a girl who is comfortable being herself around him. Guys always like goofing around, and doing the first thing that comes to their mind, so what's better than having your girl do it with you?!
And the last thing that I also think a guy wants is a friend. A buddy. He too, in different ways, wants a girl that he can come to, and talk to like he would a friend without all the mushy stuff.
Now that I have done my research, here are the top three things a men and women want in a relationship.
What Men Want-
1. A Woman that is Playful
Every guy likes to play and be active. But sometimes, us girls forget that and try to "talk" things to him. It's not the words that make him like you, its the things you do together to build good memories. Try watching sports together, or being a little extra competitive. You can even do a little teasing with these things and that always gets their attention.
2. A Woman that is Independent
Most girls seem to think that guys like a girl who is "weaker" or not as "smart" so they can feel like they have the higher power. But after my research, apparently that's completely wrong. Guys want someone who inspires them, and is good at what she does. They don't get intimidated at all. They just want the time that they have with you, to be with you. Not your own interests and responsibilities.
3. A Woman who is Emotionally Mature
Eventually, you and your other half will not agree on something or have a misunderstanding. So the question is, how will a girl react to this? A girl who is mature enough to not blame her man for her problems, and instead just explain why she feels the way she does, will help the guy have a better understanding of the situation.
What Women Want-
1. Women want to be Wanted
Not all of us girls may notice this, but its true. We like being that person you talk to about your day, and knowing that we can turn to you if in need.
To help guys in this department, try asking her about her goals, where she sees herself in the future, or questions that maybe you even you wonder about.
2. Woman want a Friend
If a guy really likes a woman, he will do the best that he knows to show it. He takes her out to dinner, invites her to activities, or proposing anything that will get to know her better.
Of course with some exceptions, these can be things that you would do with your friends, so let her know that she has a friend in you, and you have a friend in her.
3. We Want you to be Honest
Guys, if you don't have feelings for a girl anymore, don't drag it out. There is plenty of other fish in the sea, so if you don't see your relationship going anywhere, let her now. Because if you don't, she is only going to be hurt twice as much in the end.
Well, that's it for this week! Hope that this may have helped anyone in their relationships, or given them a better idea of their significant other!

The reason why I chose my topic to be about relationships is because for one, they can be extremely confusing, and other reasons are, I wonder why guys and girls do the things they do. Why do guys need their "guy time?" why do some girls want to be with their boyfriend, and their boyfriend only? Why do people cheat? And how come 50% of marriages end up in a divorce?
I am currently in a relationship, and I find that my biggest problems, personally, are competing with todays society. I can't go rent a movie with him without worrying about if whether or not there's going to be a naked girl, or a stripper or something. In todays world, its all about sex, and I hate it. I realize that I am probably one of the few girls that think of this, but I think that more girls should notice these things too, and consider there self respect. If girls had more self respect for themselves, then guys would have more respect for girls. I use to always think that guys were the cheaters and pigs, but today, the girls are JUST AS bad.
So for this topic, I am going to be talking about all the points I brought up, and maybe it'll help others learn more about things in their relationships.