A counselor surveyed 200 cheating and non cheating men. Here are the results from his surveys..
- 48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated.
So much for the myth that for men, cheating is all about sex: Only 8 percent of men said that sexual dissatisfaction was the main factor in their infidelity. "Our culture tells us that all men need to be happy is sex," Neuman says. "But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they're appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right."
- 66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair.
It isn't just uncaring jerks who cheat. In fact, 68 percent of cheaters never dreamed they'd be unfaithful, and almost all of them wished they hadn't done it, Neuman says. Clearly, guilt isn't enough to stop a man from cheating. "Men are good at compartmentalizing feelings," Neuman explains. "They can hold on to their emotions and deal with them later." So even if your man swears he would never cheat, don't assume it can't happen. It's important for both of you to take steps toward creating the relationship you want.
-I personally don't agree with men feeling guilty "during" the affair. It didn't stop you from crawling underneath the sheets with her yet you felt guilty? Yeah okay..
- 77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated.
Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes it as a possibility. Build your social circle around happy couples that share your values — it'll create an environment that supports relationships.
So I'm gonna be honest, I don't know if I personally agree with these results. All I'm saying is, if you have to cheat on your wife or girlfriend, I don't care what the excuse is, get out! To the guy in the first bullet: your excuse for cheating on her was mainly because of physical reasons. It hurt her, so no shit she's not gonna be interested for a while. So your solution was cheating?.. You're lucky I'm not your girlfriend.
But don't worry guys, next week I'll list why us girls cheat, so I'm not completely throwing you under the bus:).
I have to agree with on the whole not believing that they feel guilty "during" the affair. Obviously if they still crawled in bed with the other woman, they aren't feeling bad about it. I also agree with you on the face if you have to cheat, get out! Who wants or needs that in their lives? It really hurts you more than it'll hurt them if you stay with that person.
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