My parents had been married for over twenty years, had three children, and are currently going through a divorce. Kind of ironic that I chose Relationships as my topic...
The last year has been nothing but hell for me and my brother and sister. My parents have done nothing but argue the last six months that my dad was still living with us, and now even though he is currently moved out, we are still stuck in the middle of everything that's going on.
In case you are wondering, I am writing about this because when I came home today, I had to hear more about lawyers, and what parent is trying to do or get from the other. So I just thought I would get this off my chest a little.
For all the other kids whose parents are divorced, I honestly have no idea how you do it. Everyone keeps telling me that it gets a lot better over time. And I'm sure it does, but it seems to be taking forever! Some have even told me that it can be nice because you get to have two birthdays and holidays. Well let me tell you right now, your wrong, and it absolutely sucks. The last Christmas that we had, my dad wasn't there with the rest of my family, and I was completely heartbroken. My sister cried all night, and wouldn't talk to anyone. I can't believe that the rest of my life is going to be like that on Holidays and birthdays.
Before any of this happened, my plan was to always attend school at Delta because it was wasn't that far from home if I needed something, and mainly because we just can't afford a university. But I was always super excited because I have family in Saginaw that I planned on living with, my aunt and uncle, and then I would just be able to go home every weekend. But now sense my parents are splitting, I am currently living in three different places. I live with my dad two days of the week, my aunt two days of the week, and my mom on the weekends. My head explodes every single time I have to plan out my week, and it's a huge pain in the ass to keep up with all the things that I have to pack to go from place to place.
I hope and pray everyday that this bump in my path will soon come to an end. It sucks so bad knowing that I am trying to move on with my life, but my brother and sister are still there.. There are many days that I feel awful because I feel as if I have just left them, and have no time for them because of living in three different places. It has been so difficult making everyone happy.
I just wish that I could go back to when we were a family...
I completely understand how you feel. My parents have been divorced pretty much my entire life and its hard. I hate having to plan out my week so I know what to take back and forth from house to house. I feel like I'm moving out every other week and I only have two houses. I could not imagine living in three different houses in one week. It's frustrating but eventually you just get used to it, but for sure it does suck.
ReplyDeleteI completely get where you are coming from. While my parents are still together, I am pretty sure there will be a divorce in the works soon. All they do is fight and it's stressful to have to listen to it all the time. I can't imagine living in three different places. I would always leave something important at one of the other places and have to go back for it. I am sure that's not fun at all to deal with.
ReplyDeleteLiving in three different places is pretty crazy, but you have to do you now. You're moving on with life and all you can really do is show your brother and sister how much you love and appreciate them each time you see them. They will understand and I'm sure this will all get better with time. :)
ReplyDeleteI learned while going through my parents getting a divorce: Let them know how you feel. It's not about you or your siblings, look outside the box. I straight up told my parents, if they keep up with arguing and fighting, sooner or later, they won't see me in the picture at all. Be civil, as in i told my mom if she's going to take all of my dads stuff, plan on not seeing me around. There is no such thing as sharing me. You did this not me, so I'm not going back and forth each week to see you both. They loved each other before, so they figured things out and they actually are friends now. Time heals everything
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